How To Discuss Memory Changes With A Loved One

The holiday season brings families together: around dinner tables, traditions, and long conversations. With more time spent together, you may notice small changes in a loved one’s memory that weren’t noticeable before. Knowing how to talk about those changes can feel just as challenging as noticing them.

Starting the conversation doesn’t have to be uncomfortable or alarming. A gentle, thoughtful approach can help create understanding and support rather than fear.

Choose The Right Moment

Look for a calm, private setting — not during a busy gathering or stressful moment. A relaxed environment helps keep the conversation open and respectful.

Lead With Care

Use “I” statements to share observations without placing blame. For example: “I’ve noticed you’ve seemed more forgetful lately, and I just wanted to check in.”
This keeps the focus on support, not judgment.

Listen, Then Speak

Give your loved one space to share how they’re feeling. Memory concerns can be emotional, and being heard can make all the difference.

Focus On Next Steps

Not all memory changes mean something serious — but checking in early can provide clarity and peace of mind. Framing the conversation around learning more together can ease anxiety.

Schedule A Free Memory Screen

If memory concerns are on your mind, taking a small step now can help everyone feel more confident moving forward. Conquest Research is currently offering free memory assessments for adults 55+ with memory concerns.

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